Okay, I did my obligatory post for 30 days of music already, so this isn't another music blog post, this is a venting blog post... read only if you want to hear me rant! (HAHA)
I hate dating! This is way harder than it was in highschool... it was so easy back then... a cute boy was interested in me... we went out... we became bf/gf... end of story. No games, no bullshit. I guess back then, the guys hadn't had time to perfect their "game" yet...
Now it's so complicated. I can never seem to tell if a guy is into me or not... and then they say/do stuff that leads me to believe they are... but then they end up just playing me for a fool. I'm sick of it.
Why can't I find one nondouchebag guy to date? And I'm not even talking about wanting to find someone for a serious relationship... just someone to talk to and hang out with... have fun with. With no games... no bullshit... no drama.
Is it so hard to tell someone you aren't interested in them? I'd much rather feel the sting of disapointment and have my feelings hurt for about a day when a guy says he doesn't have feelings for me... rather than be strung along believing I have a chance with someone... when really... I don't. That hurts a lot more, and for longer, and just pisses me off.
So I think I've pretty much come to the conclusion that I'm really done with dating for awhile... I've been burned too many times... it's just not fun anymore.
My life is full enough with my kids, my friends, and my work. Being single isn't as bad as I thought it would be. I was just afraid of it because I had never been single before.
Living alone is actually kind of nice for a change. I don't need a man in my life to complete me, or make me happy.
Sure, it would be nice to have someone to share life with... but I'm not in any huge hurry for that to happen. This sounds kind of trite, but I'm having all my needs met. My kids fulfuill my "love" needs, my friends fulfill my "social" needs.
Don't get me wrong... I'm not going to turn into a bitter old spinster, lol. If a nice guy crosses my path that looks like he's "dating or relationship" worthy... I won't turn it down just because I'm afraid I'll get hurt. I do believe it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
It may be a good Idea to give "dating" a break. And yes the kids fulfill your "love" but kid "love" and relationship "love" are completly different. These are just my two cents and do with what you will. Im just noticing something as I read your post. When it comes to dating. You seem to really put your heart on your sleeve and maybe expecting a lil too much too fast.....I think you should date still but maybe tone it back a lil....Dont exspect too much. Get to know them. Have them get to know you. But over a long period of time. Say you go on your first date. You think it went well. He "says" he wants to do it again. And you dont hear a word for some time a week at most. Then just say ok hes not the one. Regardless of anything else. If the guy doesnt contact you in any form within a week. He aint serious. You can like someone. But try not letting the "love" feeling show until later. That way you dont get hurt as bad. Am I making any sense? It is a tough world out there when it comes to dating. Since "decent" good old fashion american guys, hold the door open for you type of guys are very far in between. But like I said. Keep your heart covered a lil. And if a month goes by and you have had more than one date. And you find out along the way hes into just you and he meets your every criteria. You feel and see thats the one. Dont ever think your not good enough for someone because of looks. Looks are not everything. Ive always told myself I would rather have someone thats not "hot" and treated me like a queen. Than some hot guy that every girl wants and abuses you. Since most "hot" guys are either 1. players 2. abusive 3. gay. They are so stuck on themselves and dont have the room to actualy care about a genuine girl. So anyway, thats my long two cents. I wish you the best of luck and hang in there. He is out there.
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Jasmine