This is my 2nd failed relationship attempt, post breakup with doucher.
This wonderful specimen of a human being will be referred to as "THE SMOOTH OPERATOR".
This guy... wow.. where to even start with him? He had me soooo fooled. And he had his wife sooo fooled. Yes, wife, turns out the guy I was dating for 2 and a half months was friggin' MARRIED. Not even seperated. According to his wife, she thought happily married for 10 years! OI!
I should have known better. If you post a personal ad... this is the kind of guy that is tempted to reply! But alas, I had put my pride aside and had hoped that my plea to the dating cyber space gods would be heard and it would bring a decent man into my life.
I THOUGHT I had hit the jackpot with The Smooth Operator. I thought he was sooo perfect. THE ONE! Everything about him was great and I was tickled pink that I had hit one out of the park with this one.
He answered my post and the more I talked to him, the more wonderful I thought he was. He was a single dad to a 2 year old daughter he had full custody of. He had been divorced for a year.
He had his own house, cars, and a great job. He was handy when it came to working on houses and cars, and he knew how to cook, clean, and do laundry. He volunteered, gardened, and recycled.
Just an all around amazing guy, right? So of course I agreed to meet him. And so I did, and it was instant fireworks. I had the best time ever with him! He made me laugh, smile, and feel special.
It had been a long time since I felt that way. We agreed to get together again, and so we did, again and again for 2 and a half months.
I thought it was a real relationship... he kept insisting it wasn't about the sex for him, and often times we would go places and hang out and sex wasn't involved, so I believed him.
But I should have caught onto his game sooner. We used hotels for some of our, um, fun times, because at the time my ex doucher was still sharing the apartment with me (more on that in another blog, I'm sure) and since his daughter was home with a sitter we both agreed a hotel would be the best bet at the time.
He always paid for it, but always in cash, and he made me put it on my card not his. He always had a convienet excuse, his card broke in half, or it wasn't working right, or he forgot it. And I fell for it.
Because I was so head over heels for him. Not all the way in love, but starting to fall in love. I started to get frustrated though because one would think that after almost 3 months of dating he would have been ready to get more serious, invite me over to his place, introduce me to the kid, friends, etc.
But when that never happened I got suspicious... and then of course frustrated with the fact that he was always busy with "work" and we didn't get to spend as much time together as I'd like.
Well come to find out it was all because he was married! Ugh.... After so many times of being cheated on, I had become the "other woman" and even though I had no idea I was such, it still made me feel like shit.
And I hate him for putting me in that position. I hate that I totally had to shatter his wifes world when I told her about our relationship. I just hate him, period. I was so fooled by him, The Smooth Operator.
I highly doubt I was the first person he ever cheated with. He was way too good with his game, and an even better liar than The Douchebag and The Player.... So ladies, if a guy seems too good to be true... he PROBABLY is!
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